It is so easy to get in the flesh, living out our fleshly nature. But that is not the way for a true born again spirit-filled Christian to live...By the Spirit of God inside of us, we put to death the deeds of the flesh...it is that simple. We cannot fight the fleshly desires by staying in it but by allowing the Spirit of God that resides within us to overcome by the blood of the spotless lamb. We are the temples of the Holy Spirit. We should not be full of carnality.
We have to push through the crud by the Spirit of God. We have a real live threat and that is Satan and his forces of darkness. If you doubt the spirit-realm and it's reality you will always fight a losing battle, You have to identify who your real enemy is, and that is not a human being. You also have to recognize your victor and that is Jesus Christ. He is the Lion of Judah that resides in our hearts that gives us bold victories! I pray He can reveal these truths to you.
I wish I had known this when I first became a Christian. You cant brush things under the rug, you need the full truth of the word of God.
The enemy of your souls wants to dig up as much dirt as possible on you. Why? He is out to destroy your character. All the godly characteristics in you are from God. You know full well what they are. The righteousness of God resides in each one of His children! We have no goodness or righteousness on our own. The Scriptures say that our righteousness is as filthy rags to the Lord.
Satan wants you to look at your sin, and throw in the towel. He wants you to take the easy way out and grovel in the mud and mire. He doesn't want you to move on, he wants you to stay in your corruption...
God wants you to look at His Son and what He has done. Through Jesus Christ we have been delivered and set free from the darkness of hell into God's marvelous light! We have been brought by the price of the spilled blood on the cross of Calvary! This is not a small thing, but it is a giant deliverance from the grip of the prince of darkness! We should not have any problem looking and lovingly putting the lover of our souls first place in our life. It's when we have lost sight of this is when the enemy comes strong to distract us... that we need to give the victory completely to Jesus. He will stand strong and bring us forth as Champions!
To sum it all up, I want to say, "Stand up and fight!" Do not let the enemy run all over you with past sins and mistakes. Trust me He will bring out all the artillery. Stand-firm and steadfastly fight the fight of faith! and watch the enemy and his minions flee from your life! You will not regret it.